1. Be punctual
Lets be honest. No one likes to wait. So if you’re going to be more than 15 minutes late, let your date know via a text. Its just common courtesy, but if you’re trying to be “fashionably” late, that could be another story, I would stick to 5-10 minutes.
2. Be interested
During the date, make sure to listen and be engaged. Don’t be looking around while your date is talking or worse, yawning away. Make sure to show your interest and they will do the same.
3. Eye Contact
Is a must! Keeping eye contact helps engage the other person and shows your interest in them. It also strengthens your bond with the person.
4. Pay attention to your date, not your phone
The ultimate no no! This generation is all about the smartphone and although we are conversing on Social Media Platforms the social aspect face to face is impacted negatively. There’s nothing worse than feeling ignored when someone else is on the phone. After all, you’ve got the date; you’ve made an effort to meet. Give the person a chance and put your phone down. Better yet, don’t even take it out. You can check it from time to time if you’re expecting an important call but otherwise give your date your undivided attention.
5. DON’T be rude to the waiter/hostess
One of my personal pet peeves is when the person I’m with is rude or mean to the hostess or waiter that is serving us. Just because they are waiting on us doesn’t give us the right to treat them as any less of a human being. At the end of the day, being polite is just good sense and shows your date how well mannered you really are.
6. Offer to split the bill
Ladies, please take note. Yes, as a gentleman the guy will offer to pay the bill, however it’s just nice to offer to split the bill. Shows that you are considerate and not a gold digger.
7. DON’T underdress
Ladies, no lu lu lemon’s or oversized sweatshirts and men, please shower and leave the pajama pants at home. Basically the rule here is dress to impress. I’m not saying wear a ball gown or tuxedo, but at the very least make an effort to groom yourself, wear something clean and ironed and dress for the occasion!
8. DON’T escape in the middle of the date
No jumping out of bathroom windows or sneaking out in the middle of the date. If you realize early on that this isn’t the person you want to have a 2nd or 3rd date with, simply be polite. Don’t go for the second drink, don’t order dessert and have a valid excuse (as in you have to work early tomorrow).
9. DON’T ask where this date is going (i.e.: do they think that this will lead to marriage)
I’m pretty sure that after your first date or two, you wont know if this is Mr. or Mrs. Right, it takes time. Its okay to ask what the person’s short term or long term plans are (thank you Steve Harvey) however it is not okay to start talking about future kids names or where your house will be in the next 3 -5 years.
10. DON’T do major PDA especially in a public place or when you are on a double date
Couples, if you are on a double date, please keep the PDA to a minimum. It isn’t a contest. Being affectionate with one another is one thing, but having a full on make out session in public when you are out with friends is another. Get a room or go home to yours!
11. DON’T get wasted
You would think this is a no brainer, however, liquid courage is usually the first item on the menu. Yes it calms down nerves but please note that there is a difference between social drinking and drinking to get intoxicated. You should also be aware of your own limits, so if you haven’t eaten all day, that second glass of wine should probably wait till after appetizers.
12. Involve everyone in the conversation
Make sure everyone is having a good time and involve everyone in the conversation. If you see someone being quiet ask questions and take some interested in topics that they are interested in.
At the end of the day, it’s all about getting to know your date or the people you are on a double date with! So get out there and have fun!